Have you ever felt stuck in the same job situations, relationships or financial circumstances – experiencing the same results over and over?
When you live in the state of “what was” you’ll always continue to have the same experiences. Making “what was” into “what is” will insure you’ll live in a loop of the same experiences.
Be open to new things coming into your life, but don’t assume that you have control over how they will come.
When you’re open the universe can work freely without being filtered through limited expectations.
You won’t live from a perspective that says, “what was” must be “what is” and “what will come.”
Think about it. If you judge every new situation by what happened in the past, how can anything new enter your life? If it’s new and unfamiliar, there’s no past experience to base expectations on. Unfortunately, for some of us the unknown (and unpredictable) must be bad, so as soon as it doesn’t fit into our paradigm, we reject it.
Perhaps the fear is that this new job, love interest or financial windfall is really too good for you. It’s so different (and so much better) that it must be a mistake. So, you may push it away so that you won’t be hurt when it fails. If it doesn’t fail, you sabotage it to make sure it conforms to your low expectations.
Then, when the smoke clears and the job, relationship or your finances are in ruins, you complain about how you wouldn’t have any luck if you didn’t have bad luck. Poor you, you’re just one of those people who always gets the short end.
That’s your story and you’re sticking to it, right?
If you want to have new experiences, learn from the past, don’t wallow in it. The person you are now is not the person you were. The knowledge you have today came because you went through those prior experiences.
Don’t beat yourself up about what you “should” have done. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. It’s your choice. Are you living in today or still stuck in yesterday?
Copyright © 2008 – 2016 Deborah A. Bailey
Excerpted from: “Think Like an Entrepreneur: Transforming Your Career and Taking Charge of Your Life.”